Throughout my time listening to Hands Free Mama by Rachel Macy Stafford, I heard about the idea of “Talk Time”.
Talk Time: 10 minutes of uninterrupted, focused time with each child at a regular time each day.
From early on in the book, Stafford told about her precious time with her two daughters and the way it cultivated an atmosphere of peace and love in their home. Her two children looked forward to “Talk Time” and began to count on it as one of their favorite times of the day.
Not a time to teach, nag, remind, instruct, change behavior, or give a lesson.
Just a time to talk. Connect. Love.
Listening to Stafford describe times of laying in bed with her girls, smelling their scent, noticing their growth, and hearing them talk, took me back to the earlier years when this was a regular night-time occurrence for our family. Reading books, singing songs, praying, talking about whatever their little minds thought up.
What happened to this sacred time? At what point did I decide my children didn’t need a time to connect at the end of the day? When did it become easier just to read one book to both girls at the same time, forgoing their unique interests and need for one on one time? And, what confused my mind into thinking scrolling Facebook at night was a better use of my time than focusing on my loved ones?
As I neared the end of listening to Hands Free Mama, I heard it again. One last punch about “Talk Time”. My mind didn’t wander this time. I heard it loud and clear. This 10 minutes of focused one on one time can change your family.
Due to multi-tasking while listening and overload of information input at times, I will need to listen to or read the book again. There are valuable tips that have already escaped my mind. But, due to the Spirit intervening and engaging my mind at just the right moment, I have not missed the importance of “Talk Time”.
John 14:26 describes how the Holy Spirit intervenes to help us learn, understand and remember what is necessary for us to live the life the Lord wants us to live, “But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you.”
Because the Holy Spirit led my learning, no longer will I tell myself, “Tomorrow”…
- “Tomorrow, I will have the energy at the end of the day to focus on my kids”
- “Tomorrow, I will make them a priority”
- “Tomorrow, I won’t be too distracted”
- “Tomorrow, I will encourage an earlier bed time so we can enjoy that special time”
Nope, today is the day.
- Today is the day to look into the eyes of my girls and surprise them with my time.
- Today is the day to lay down next to them just like when they were toddlers.
- Today is the day to hear the thoughts they end the day with.
- Today is the day they will go to sleep knowing their mom wanted just a little more time with them.
Today is the day our regular adventure with Talk Time begins.